“Once you know who you are, you don’t have to worry anymore.” - Nikki Giovanni
For some with my experience, a seasoned young professional, a lateral move at that point may have not been appealing. But for me I saw the lateral move as an opportunity to grow, challenge myself, expand my network, and prepare me for my dream job in healthcare. A lateral move may not always be the best move but for the circumstances I just described I thought it was the perfect move. I accepted and decided the lateral move was right for me for two major reasons.
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In anticipation of one the most important movies in Black Film History, Black Panther, check this interview out with Black Panther Director Ryan Coogler. I watch/listen to a ton of online content while I work.,This was not my first time hearing Coogler speak so I anticipated the typical radio interview but after listening, I was pleasantly surprised with a very strong impression about two things:
The realness of Coogler. I remember vaguely Coogler having a studder when listening to interview for Fruitvale, but during this one it was refreshing just to hear and see an African American Man being himself. Not changing his speech, tone or pattern but being his genuine self. And even more important publicly being accepted and praised for it; Oscar nominated, Big Box Office acknowledged, Critically acclaimed and still being his authentic self.
The other big thing for me was how he spoke about Africa. I have a couple friends that have been and have shared their experience with me, it was never anything earth shaking. I’m ashamed to say now but I never really had the desire to go to Africa. But after listening to Ryan's descriptions, experience, and reverence he speaks about his Africa trip for Black Panther research, it had me planning a trip immediately.
It’s a good listen, and will build your anticipation for the movie. I recommend you give it a listen.
3 Powers of 2017
After reading Ben’s post on 2017 I began reflecting on my own year. And 2017 was one hellva year. I locked into serious dream chasing mode, pursing goals I long dreamed about but never gave a shot. And I immediately ran into struggles… but I persevered to experience new highs, personally and professionally. Now immediately running into problems may have broken the old me but this year was different. This year I was mentally and spiritually stronger than ever. But why? What made me different this year than any other year? Powers… I honed and realized several powers in my life. Helping me accomplish new highs in my career, real estate business, marriage, and T6. These are my three powers for 2017:
Power of Writing Things DownIn late 2016 I came across a video with Jack Dorsey, the founder and CEO of Twitter, he noted the key to his success was writing down all of his goals. Nothing earth shaking there, goes right in line with vision boards and other goal visualization techniques. But what caught my attention was his own technique before he starts his day. He would write his dos and don’ts for the day. The daily regimen of writing down the small things kept him in line with big picture goals. I started doing this exact regimen in late 2016 and carried it into 2017. It’s transformed over the year but it’s amazing to see goals on paper being brought to life. Doing this daily created a habit and there is a ton of power in habit. I also began waking at the same time, praying first thing in the morning, affirmations, and worshipping. If I skipped doing any of these I could feel my day shift and my energy be off. I realized it’s important to have these healthy habits so the outside world doesn’t dictate how your day goes and keeps you on track to accomplish something.
Power of ReadingI was never a big reader growing up but over this last year I began to understand the importance of reading for sharping your mind, maintaining a strong mental state and improving your writing ability. Some of my favorites this year: The Obstacle is the Way, Think and Grow Rich, A Course in Miracles, Relentless, Black Privilege, Jump, Creative Visualization, Audiobook How the Law of Attraction Made me a Millionaire, and The Magic of Believing. Reading provided me information but more importantly it enhanced my imagination, it opened a world full of possibility. After reading, I’d come up with a million ideas and I’d then take these ideas/visualizations and immediately throw them in my daily do’s list. “Imagination is everything, it’s the preview of life’s coming attractions”- Einstein
Power of your SurroundingsThere are no limits except the ones we set on ourselves. “The main thing people are controlled by… the perception of themselves.”- Kanye. When I think of my surroundings, I think of actual people rather than objects. I learned the importance of controlling the individuals you let in your private life has influence on your perception. Perception is reality. Anything that felt toxic and negative I eliminated. As some of my goals began to feel overwhelming I began to learn who I could share with and who I couldn’t. I learned who would lift me up and then those who would nudge me to quit (some very close relatives). Surround yourself with the positive energy and goals don’t feel as big, problems don’t seem impossible, you create a positive perception of yourself, and the positive thoughts drown the doubt. Constantly reevaluate the individuals you let in your world.
“...for the Lord your God will never leave you nor forsake you.”
1 John 4:10a
“Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us...”
I’ve found myself throwing around the word “Love” too often. I realized this and then it began to bother me when I heard others throw it around. Love - what is it and what does it mean? How is it represented? For some it’s seen in actions, others words, materials, relationships, or sex. Pondering these ideas I go to the Bible, which for me has always been a source of answers. There are two scriptures that help explain what love is and how it should be displayed. The first scripture, Deuteronomy 31:6 the second scripture 1 John 4:10a. Deuteronomy shows God being God to us no matter what we do. And 1 John shows us even if we don’t love God, that He loves us because it’s who He is. I say that to say this, God is love, it’s not something that He does, it’s who He is. We sin, a lot of time willingly and He still loves us unconditionally. The greatest demonstration of love isn’t attraction, it’s loyalty. Daily we fall short of perfect and yet God loves us, never to leave usbecause our faults won’t stop Him from being who He is.
One thing I don’t want you to be is society’s sheep, meaning I don’t want you to be mediocre and settle for average. Prove to yourself that you are a wolf among sheep, prove that you will take life for all it is giving, and prove that you are willing to give all the potential you have been granted in life to move to places that you can control.
Black excellence was in full display on yesterday's episode of FOX's underrated sports talk show "UNDISPUTED". UNDISPUTED features two anchors; the LeBron hater Skip Bayless and the black history making, durag wearing, black empowering, black & mild smoking, YAK drinking son of a gun *Insert a “WOOOOO” in my best Ric Flair impression* Shannon Sharpe. He is a proud, woke black man who continues to showcase that every day and has proven time and time again that he is not only unapologetically black, but that he also stands with the African American community. Learn from Shannon! Be unapologetically you!
"The stone that the builders rejected has become the capstone..."
Looking at the life of Jesus, much of his interaction with his "peers" or "colleagues" was filled with judgement and doubt for not only who he was but for what he was capable of doing. We walk through life, looking for purpose and then looking for ways to fulfill such purpose. Along the way we find that not everyone is welcoming with open arms or good intentions. They try to plant seeds of doubt and fear, attempt to downgrade you or your work. Jesus, for me always serves as a perfect example of how I should live. Not only spiritually but everyday interacting with the people I come across. Whether it's a co-worker, a neighbor or whomever it is. Jesus lived life with all eyes on him daily. Every move he made was watched and criticized and that was without him having to post it on Twitter. As he lived his life in ministry, opposition came. He took it and responded. Never losing his cool, remaining true to who he knew he was, a child of the King. They doubted him, he still worked miracles, they laughed at him, he still preached loud and proud. They spit on him, he continued to carry the cross. He knew who he was and he knew his purpose. It didn't matter that they didn't understand or accept him. It didn't matter that his own people didn't accept him as the son of God. All that mattered is that even though he was looked at as the rejected stone, he knew that he was the only stone that mattered. He knew that he was the foundation. So as you go through the week, accept that people will talk about you, laugh at your ideas, throw dirt on your name. Remember who and who's you are. For some you're the one that rejected, for others you're the cornerstone.
I was on spring break this April when I had an anxiety attack while driving on the highway. I came home took my meds, and on the couch I stayed for 4 days. Saying goodbye to them was like ending an abusive relationship. I looked in the mirror and decided I was worth fighting for.
I refused to let the "help" kill me!
So with The Talented 6 having thrown our first professional’s networking event last week, here are a few tips for the average millennial who have either never been to a networking event or who may have been like me when I attended my first event, frightened! These five tips will help you dive deep into your networking bag! This that special networking cloth talk!
I recently saw a commercial on television that was meant to be in jest, but my overly active mind decided to take it further, and in this case, I came upon some interesting thoughts that I believe are worth sharing about keeping it 100. Honesty must start within oneself first. Being honest with yourself has three main components to it.