The Truth About Honesty
I recently saw a commercial on television that was meant to be in jest, but my overly active mind decided to take it further, and in this case, I came upon some interesting thoughts that I believe are worth sharing. Here’s the commercial below:
This particular ad was for a credit card company that claims to be upfront about their terms and conditions on one of their special offers. The setting is a man and a woman at the end of a typical date. As the guy is sending the lady off in her cab for the night they have a short exchange. In saying their goodbyes, the woman asks, “Call me tomorrow?” The man replies with a thought-provoking response. “I’ll send a vague text in a couple of days that’ll leave you confused about my level of interest….” This then launches a conversation that no one would actually have, but many have put into action. The woman retorts with, “I’ll wait a full two days before responding…” The man ends the strange exchange by saying, “Perfect! We’re never going to see each other again, are we?” The woman assures his observation with a “Not at all,” as she gets into the cab.
Now, at first glance, I was completely confused as to what they were trying to get at in this commercial, until the narrator comes out and says, “Wouldn’t it be great if everyone said what they meant?” It’s a simple concept, that many people, especially around the young adult age (18-25), are not able to put into practice. Obviously, the commercial shows an extreme case, but I believe that if more people chose to be completely honest with each other (especially when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex) it would save so many relationships.
This honesty must start within oneself first. Being honest with yourself has three main components to it. First, be real about who you are. If you are in a situation that does not necessarily fit who you are, don’t try to convince yourself otherwise. This is not to say don’t try new things, but know what fits you to begin with. Secondly, be real about who you are not. A wise man once told me, “you don’t know what you don’t know.” Simple, but powerful. As much as it pains me to say this as a true Cleveland fan, I truly admire this quality about Draymond Green of the Golden State Warriors. If you watch him play, he will only do what he is good at, and leave the rest to his teammates. You will never see him trying to outshoot Steph and Klay, or go “iso” like he is Kevin Durant. He is going to do all the little things because he understands who he is, who he is not, and the nature of his job on that team. The final component to self-honesty is being real about your intentions. I believe this is the biggest downfall of a large portion of my generation. So many relationships, friendships, and even family relationships have been put in a bad place because of misconstrued intentions. Before making any serious decision about anything, understand what it is that you are trying to get out of the situation! Not knowing, or lying to yourself about this will put you in a world of trouble. It can, and most likely will, affect someone else and possibly hurt them in a way that will stay with that person for a very long time. It is one of the biggest reasons we have so many guarded people today.
“Honesty is the best policy.” It’s an age old saying that still, and always will hold weight. If you feel that you need to be dishonest, then you need to reevaluate! Take your time and think why you feel you shouldn’t tell the whole truth, and also the benefits of not being honest. Most likely, it’s something you don’t need to be involved in. If you are worried about hurting someone’s feelings, think about how much worse they would be hurt if they find out that you weren’t being real.
So, do the people around you a favor, and do yourself a favor and……
“KEEP IT 100!”